Making a Habit of Focusing on You
What parts of your life do you put focus on? Is it varied? How often do you focus on others before you focus on you?
People pleasers tend to be an afterthought in their own lives because they focus primarily on how they can create EASE, and as a result can become quickly distracted from what is actually important to them.
If you'd like to try on putting some of your life first, you could start with the following:
Intentionally make time for you, just you, so you aren't distracted by the needs of others.
Really notice how that time feels in your soul, check in with what/why it is good or uncomfortable, and journal about it.
Regularly schedule/make time like this for yourself. It will help create a habit of listening to/acting on what YOU want to do.
Start making a point of creating/honoring a boundary at least once a day. Such as, if you are in the middle of something and a person asks you to help them, let them know you'll be happy to help as soon as you're done doing ….
Once you become comfortable with the above steps, try on what it feels like to be definitive with others when you answer simple questions (Where do you want to eat? What do you want to do today?). Compromise can't happen until you know and state what you want. You may be "fine" doing what others say, but until you get clear with what YOU want, you'll always be the one out of focus in your life.
By doing these things, you are slowly learning bit by bit how to focus the lens of your life on your beautiful self. You deserve to be seen, known, loved, and cherished in every gorgeous detail.
I provide support for women who are READY to live authentically as themselves, but aren't clear on how to get there. I have the info & tools, first hand experience, and the safe space for you to explore what gets in your way when you try to make these changes on your own. Reach out when you know it's time for a change.❤️ jennifer@dailychoices.life
